Dear (future) Son,
Hi there. It’s your mom. I know we haven’t met yet, but I have some things I want you to know.
Please be yourself. It doesn’t matter if the world thinks you should like blue, or if you’re “supposed” to play with trucks instead of dolls. If you like it, if it makes you happy, do it. Keep it. It doesn’t matter what anyone else on the planet thinks.
I want you to remember to be compassionate. Don’t let this world make you hard. Don’t let it shrink your heart. Compassion. Empathy. Kindness. These are what make the world go ’round. Be a part of it.
Stand your ground. It’s sacred.
Work hard. Don’t be afraid to get your hands dirty. Laziness is the most unattractive trait a man can have.
Build your kingdom. Find your queen. Don’t let her go.
Be chivalrous. Respect women. 90% of the women you meet will probably tell you they don’t believe gentlemen exist. Prove them wrong. (Don’t worry. Your father and I will teach you.)
Relationships are not 50/50. They are 100/100. Both people should be putting everything they’ve got into making it work. Being with someone is just that – work. So don’t be afraid to put forth the effort. If it’s the right person, it will be a constant reward.
If it’s not something you would say to me, and it’s not something you’d want another guy saying to your future daughter, don’t say it.
Don’t be afraid to admit when you’re wrong. Everyone makes mistakes. Apologies aren’t always easy, but sometimes they are necessary.
Pick. Your. Battles. This is one of the biggest, most important lessons I have learned, and continue to learn.
Continue to grow. Learn new things. Take the world by storm. There is so much to see, so many people to meet. There’s culture to experience, and food to eat! So much food!
Read. Feed your mind. Literature is the best way to escape and the funnest way to explore your imagination.
Don’t build your walls too high. Everyone protects their heart. But please don’t guard it too hard. A loveless life is a lonely life.
Let your loved ones know you care. Tell your family you love them. Tell your friends you love them. You’ll never regret the times you said “I love you.” It can never be said too many times.
The day you come into the world, I promise to do my best to teach you to be the best man you can be.
Your (future) Mom