My daughter posted earlier that I was an inspiration to her, because, as she describes, I am a “fierce, independent and strong role model” .. wow, this really blew me away! I am honored and blessed that she feels this way about me. I consider myself a very lucky parent that my child (ok, I know she’s 24 and considered an adult), enjoys my company and all the crazy activities I involve her in. Whether she admits it or not, I know she enjoyed every minute of our Mother’s Day Mud Run, Bad Ass 5k Dash and most recently the hilarious Wipeout Obstacle Run (no broken bones I’m happy to report!).
As I celebrated my 50 year milestone 2 years ago, I reflected on my accomplishments, dreams, goals and bucket list. Do I have regrets? Some, but I know that these experiences have molded me into the person I am today. In my 20’s through my 30’s, I don’t think I would have looked at myself as a fierce, independent , strong woman. I was still trying to figure out my purpose- finding the perfect career, marriage, parenting. I wanted it all!
So here’s what I have learned , my pearls of wisdom, that I am passing along to my daughters and son, which I will continue to add to as my life is still a work in progress!
- You were put on this earth for a purpose-find and cultivate it!
- Be grateful for what you have, you have been blessed with a wonderful life.
- Be humble and always treat others with respect- be the bigger person.
- Finding joy comes from within and serving others. It’s not about the amount of money in the bank, the type of car you drive, all the “toys” you need to have.
- Cherish your family-sure, there are times when you may not “like” them, but they love and care about you more than you know.
- Surround your self with positive and encouraging people. Negativity and drama are poisons.
- Cherish those you are lucky enough to call your genuine friends. It’s true- if you can count your true friends on one hand, you are very rich! Sorry, this beats out the hundreds of your “friends” on Facebook and your followers on Twitter and Instagram.
- Let go of grudges-it’s emotionally draining and unhealthy.
- Choose experiences-this will contribute more to your life than wasting money on things you really don’t need.
- You don’t need approval from anyone to do what makes you happy.
- Find a partner that supports you, lifts you up, listens to you, laughs with you (and sometimes at you), and makes you a priority. This person will always have your back. If they don’t have these qualities, move on. DO NOT SETTLE!
- Most importantly, your mom is not crazy..she knows what’s best for you!