Pearls of Wisdom

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My daughter posted earlier that I was an inspiration to her, because, as she describes, I am a “fierce, independent and strong role model” .. wow,  this really blew me away! I am honored and blessed that she feels this way about me.  I consider myself a very lucky parent that my child (ok, I know she’s 24 and considered an adult),  enjoys my company and all the crazy activities I involve her in. Whether she admits it or not, I know she enjoyed every minute of our Mother’s Day Mud Run, Bad Ass 5k Dash  and most recently the hilarious Wipeout Obstacle Run (no broken bones I’m happy to report!). 

As I celebrated my 50 year milestone 2 years ago, I reflected on my accomplishments, dreams, goals and bucket list. Do I have regrets? Some, but I know that these experiences have molded me into the person I am today. In my 20’s through my 30’s, I don’t think I would have looked at myself as a fierce, independent , strong woman. I was still trying to figure out my purpose- finding the perfect career, marriage, parenting. I wanted it all! 

So here’s what I have learned , my pearls of wisdom, that I am passing along to my daughters and son, which I will continue to add to as my life is still a work in progress! 

  • You were put on this earth for a purpose-find and cultivate it!
  • Be grateful for what you have, you have been blessed with a wonderful life. 
  • Be humble and always treat others with respect- be the bigger person. 
  • Finding joy comes from within and serving others. It’s not about the amount of money in the bank, the type of car you drive, all the “toys” you need to have. 
  • Cherish your family-sure, there are times when you may not “like” them, but they love and care about you more than you know. 
  • Surround your self with positive and encouraging people. Negativity and drama are poisons.
  • Cherish those you are lucky enough to call your genuine friends. It’s true- if you can count your true friends on one hand, you are very rich! Sorry, this beats out the hundreds of your “friends” on Facebook and your followers on Twitter and Instagram.
  • Let go of grudges-it’s emotionally draining and unhealthy. 
  • Choose experiences-this will contribute more to your life than wasting money on things you really don’t need.
  • You don’t need approval from anyone to do what makes you happy. 
  • Find a partner that supports you, lifts you up, listens to you,  laughs with you (and sometimes at you), and makes you a priority. This person will always have your back. If they don’t have these qualities, move on. DO NOT SETTLE!
  • Most importantly, your mom is not crazy..she knows what’s best for you! 

 

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Pink Tax

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If you haven’t already heard, Illinois is making advances on a bill that will end taxes on tampons, pads and other feminine hygiene products. According to STL Today, the tax on these products can be as high as 10.25% in certain areas of Chicago. Being a woman in Illinois is expensive, huh? As if mother nature isn’t punishing us enough with periods, we spend a fortune yearly to manage her. But is the end of these taxes a good idea?

Sure, it would be great to use that extra money for some extra chocolate, amirite? Some would argue that of course this is a positive change! It’s not our fault we get periods! It’s an unfair tax that only effects women (unless you’re a dad/uncle/grandfather that buys these things for their young daughter/niece/granddaughter. You da real MVP’s). The others would point out that taxes bring in revenue. And if one is taken away, another needs to be applied or raised, right? So if feminine products no longer have a sales tax, which product that already has one will be raised? There are others that would argue that these things are not a necessity, but a luxury. We could all be using reusable pads instead of spending money on these disposable products that allow us to better manage our periods.

So whose side are you on?

Pink Tax does not only apply to cotton canoes and pads. CNN brings to light that almost all products made specifically for women are more expensive than the “male” version of these items – think razors, shampoos, shaving cream, etc. WHY?! Why are we paying more to LIVE?! I mean, we could always just buy the men’s razors, right? But isn’t it the principle? Sometimes, it’s not as simple as buying the male version of the product. Northwestern did a study that had both men and women call various auto body repair shops asking for quotes on having a radiator replaced. Women who appeared clueless on the phone were quoted $406 for a job that should cost $365. Men who acted similarly uninformed, were quoted $383. BOGUS. Obviously doing your homework on car repairs is smart no matter what gender you are. Duh.

What’s your opinion on Pink Tax?